Like Jay-Z, I am not impressed with Chris Brown or the love for Chris Brown.
So last night the Grammys decided that it was time to let Chris Brown back onstage after his infamous beat down of his girlfriend at the time (and maybe even his girlfriend now), Rihanna. I didn’t watch the show but I heard that people were singing his praises after the performance, and that he even ended up winning a Grammy for best R&B album. I’m sorry, but to me, this whole forgiveness and adoration for Chris Brown solely on the basis that he’s a good dancer and writes catchy music is inexcusable and really disgusting. Yeah, you heard me right, THIS IS DISGUSTING AND NOT OKAY.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I actually think he’s a very good dancer -there’s no denying that, and he had some songs that I really liked (see Forever, With You, Run It!) but in no way does this mean that all should be forgiven. Last time I checked, being good at something doesn’t mean you automatically get a pass on every other aspect of your life. Newsflash: you can be good at things and still be a major turd.
What’s really troubling is that his female fans -particularly his young female fans -think it’s okay to joke around with the fact that he physically beat up his girlfriend. Much of this sad stupidity can be seen on Twitter, with young girls practically chastising Rihanna for “complaining” about Chris Brown beating her up.
According to Glamour Magazine,
Over the course of an average year in twenty-first-century America, more than 1,400 women will be murdered by someone they’ve loved… Women (are) more likely to be killed by their boyfriend than they were 35 years ago.
Those statistics shouldn’t be true, but they are. And in the United States, no less. I mean, let’s be honest here, women are still treated as second class citizens in many cases. The fact that we are even having a debate on abortion and birth control is actually pretty insane. Personally, I don’t know if I could ever have one if I was put in that situation, but I really don’t think it’s the government’s or a man’s place to say, “YOU CAN’T HAVE AN ABORTION,” when they aren’t the ones who get pregnant.
But back to the whole Chris Brown situation.
We are glorifying someone who beat up his girlfriend, who potentially could have killed her. If you don’t think that’s true, read the report, via MTV News (Robyn F. is Rihanna’s real name, Robyn Rihanna Fenty):
A verbal argument ensued and Brown pulled the vehicle over on an unknown street, reached over Robyn F. with his right hand, opened the car door and attempted to force her out. Brown was unable to force Robyn F. out of the vehicle because she was wearing a seat belt. When he could not force her to exit, he took his right hand and shoved her head against he passenger window of the vehicle, causing an approximate one-inch raised circular contusion.
Robyn F. turned to face Brown and he punched her in the left eye with his right hand. He then drove away in the vehicle and continued to punch her in the face with his right hand while steering the vehicle with his left hand. The assault caused Robyn F.’s mouth to fill with blood and blood to splatter all over her clothing and the interior of the vehicle.
Brown looked at Robyn F. and stated, “I’m going to beat the sh– out of you when we get home! You wait and see!”
The detective said Robyn F. then used her cell phone to call her personal assistant Jennifer Rosales, who did not answer.
Robyn F. pretended to talk to her and stated, “I’m on my way home. Make sure the police are there when I get there.”
After Robyn F. faked the call, Brown looked at her and stated, “You just did the stupidest thing ever! Now I’m really going to kill you!”
Brown resumed punching Robyn F. and she interlocked her fingers behind her head and brought her elbows forward to protect her face. She then bent over at the waist, placing her elbows and face near her lap in [an] attempt to protect her face and head from the barrage of punches being levied upon her by Brown.
Brown continued to punch Robyn F. on her left arm and hand, causing her to suffer a contusion on her left triceps (sic) that was approximately two inches in diameter and numerous contusions on her left hand.
Robyn F. then attempted to send a text message to her other personal assistant, Melissa Ford. Brown snatched the cellular telephone out of her hand and threw it out of the window onto an unknown street.
Brown continued driving and Robyn F. observed his cellular telephone sitting in his lap. She picked up the cellular telephone with her left hand and before she could make a call he placed her in a head lock with his right hand and continued to drive the vehicle with his left hand.
Brown pulled Robyn F. close to him and bit her on her left ear. She was able to feel the vehicle swerving from right to left as Brown sped away. He stopped the vehicle in front of 333 North June Street and Robyn F. turned off the car, removed the key from the ignition and sat on it.
Brown did not know what she did with the key and began punching her in the face and arms. He then placed her in a head lock positioning the front of her throat between his bicep and forearm. Brown began applying pressure to Robyn F.’s left and right carotid arteries, causing her to be unable to breathe and she began to lose consciousness.
She reached up with her left hand and began attempting to gouge his eyes in an attempt to free herself. Brown bit her left ring and middle fingers and then released her. While Brown continued to punch her, she turned around and placed her back against the passenger door. She brought her knees to her chest, placed her feet against Brown’s body and began pushing him away. Brown continued to punch her on the legs and feet, causing several contusions.
Robyn F. began screaming for help and Brown exited the vehicle and walked away. A resident in the neighborhood heard Robyn F.’s plea for help and called 911, causing a police response. An investigation was conducted and Robyn F. was issued a Domestic Violence Emergency Protective Order.
I don’t know about you, but to me that sounds pretty violent. What’s also sad is that Chris Brown really hasn’t done anything to prove to anyone that he’s changed or that he’s remorseful for what happened. Yeah, he went on Larry King and said a half-assed apology, but other than that he hasn’t really done anything to show that he’s changed. That interview was pretty much just a PR ploy -take this from someone who knows PR, essentially I’m kind of majoring in it.
Second chances are very important, and I believe that most people are entitled to them. But what I don’t believe is that we forgive someone so easily when what they did was so horrible. Chris Brown was shown riding on a jet ski like a week after he beat Rihanna up. He also went on to Good Morning America, and when asked about the whole situation, he got angry and supposedly threw a chair out of a window. What I would like to see is Chris Brown speaking out to children about the effects of domestic violence. Maybe he could start a foundation -after all, he is really rich. I don’t know, I just feel like he hasn’t really done anything to show that he’s truly sorry and has learned his lesson besides the whole standard PR dog and pony show -interview, public apology, donate some money. To me, there’s a big difference in saying you’ve changed and showing you’ve changed -once again, actions, my dear ones.
Again, this whole situation isn’t just about Chris Brown. It’s also a lot about people’s reactions to the whole situation. When the story broke, many celebrities said things like, “OH THEY’RE BOTH BEAUTIFUL, WONDERFUL PEOPLE” (I’m looking at you Mary J. Blige) and “WELL IT’S NONE OF OUR BUSINESS -WE DON’T KNOW ALL THE FACTS” (side-eying you Carrie Underwood).
If we keep thinking this ignorant way, nothing is going to change. We have to make it our business and our problem because, well, it really is. Not to sound like a Sarah McLaughlin-esque commercial (minus the dogs), but domestic abuse affects not just those directly involved. I mean, where would we be as a nation, or for that matter, the world, if we said “OH WELL I LIVE IN THE NORTH AND SLAVERY IS A SOUTHERN THING… SO IT’S REALLY NONE OF MY BUSINESS,” or “WELL THE NAZIS ARE INVADING EUROPE. I LIVE IN AMERICA. I REALLY DON’T KNOW ALL THE FACTS CUZ I’M FROM KANSAS AND HAVE NEVER BEEN TO AMSTERDAM, SO I CAN’T JUDGE WHETHER IT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.”
How about no.
Domestic abuse on any level is wrong. In fact, regardless if you’re a man or woman. People who love you shouldn’t intentionally hit you. That’s not love, sorry to say.